I was looking for comfort in having Sweetness tell me how she enjoyed having me do all these things for her (and how wonderful I was) and it turned into her resenting having to tell me to do tasks she thought I should be doing.
Looking at both sides, each rebelling against what they have to do, clearly outlines the downward spiral of the initial commitment. The more one resists doing their job, the more the other wants to resist for them not doing their job, and so on and so on.
I was reflecting on the fact that we have a lot of sex and that Sweetness is very amenable to participating with me.
a switch was flipped for me that opened the door to my love being the dominant partner.